by Greebo » Thu, 08Nov06 03:40
I'd have thought that Ben was much more than just a "cad" - sure he lets himself take opportunities that present themselves, but even with the latest episode with Lisa, when he was asleep and Lisa started making use of him, in his sleep he was thinking she was Milly and was shocked when he found it was Lisa although he admittedly soon knowingly joined in.
He seems to have been subconsciously faithful to Milly even if he is unfaithful when conscious! Would he be unfaithful if their love was requited? I think we should have the chance to find out.
Even Milly seems to be willing to be off playing games in the name of "experience" when she and Ben could have been indulging in love experiments together.
One of the biggest mistakes I made in my youth was to think I could love two women at the same time and make love to both, and I don't think I was being a "cad" - just stupid and naive. They both meant a lot to me and I ended up with neither. I think if I had been in Ben's position at that age I would have genuinely had fun making love to a girl like Lisa, and been quite fond of her and the others, but my real love would still have been Milly's equivalent at the time
I can't really speak for other men, but as a young man I was quite capable of being loving, selfish, caring and opportunistic, all at the same time - Ben just seems to get more opportunities than I did, although in his position I might well have bedded Milly by now!
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