Question for the Married Men

[VRaptorX]

OK...I just got a quick question.....why do people even want threesomes? No really? I mean I can't even wrap my head around the mechanics of it. I only have one penis. It's gonna be really difficult to please 2 women at once. That doesn't sound fun, it sounds stressful.

[cpt_hook]

@blaman - that's now. give it a few years...

@vraptorx - don't knock it till you've tried it.

Mine is definitely less than adventurous, so it takes a lot of work on my part, but costumes are done, "outdoor" is done (hotel balcony). All that's left, which I've been working on for 11 years now, is getting her to open the back door. (Something I never cared about before, but, to quote Pacino, she's got a great ass!).

[Blackduck]

To add to some of the wonderful suggestions already given... I would like to tie her up (willingly, of course) and be able to play and do whatever I wanted. Whether tied to the bedposts, some kind of frame or apparatus, just so I can please her for as long as I want, how I want, and where I want till she is begging me to stop.

Not saying I would stop...

[sizzdaddy]

Don't know if I could ever talk my wife into a 4some on the beach, but I really doubt it. However I will share something I find interesting about my wife.

My wife has had a strong religious up bringing, which I don't fault her for and I don't personally have any problems with it. However I do know for a fact that it "hinders" he sexual willingness. She's very timid when it comes to stuff in the bedroom. Not really up for even trying different positions, but w/e. Anyhow I find if I get a decent amount of booze in her she loosen up quite a bit. I can get her to make out with chicks, flash her tits in public, that kinda stuff. She's even told me from time to time she fantasies about me with other girls and all that. Not exactly something you would think a normal girl with a strong religious upbringing would have right?

Course there are more examples but what I'm trying to say I find it interesting that my wife has a "nymho" underlining to her usual "goody two-shoes" exterior. And it only takes a certain amount of booze and the right atmosphere to "unleash the beast."

[Arnulf]

Hi, tlaero, I fear, I would have no special sexy whishes to my husband, but in general I can say, in our modern time, everybody knows about the most sexual practices, but the main thing is, to give them an expression against your partner. My wife died about 17 yeas ago, but although I'm alone since this time, ma sexual phantasies are still alive, as you can see in this forum. To look back on my time of beeing married, I must confess, that respecting the wishes of my wife, I suppressed a lot of my phantasies. Maybe she also had phantasies, but it depends on the quality of COMMUNICATION. So, I would give my recommandations, to communicate more of your sexual phantasies with your partner, and you will come to a better level.

[kessie8yl]

@vraptorx - Ahhh innocence..

Your question is a bit like the virgin saying he's got a right hand so what does he need a woman for....

[listenma]

Honestly, the one thing mine has never been willing, that would probably make an amazing scene is in the bathroom at work or something of the sort... a mix of dirty, dangerous and damn hot.

Greaat !!

[LRM]

iksanabot wrote :edited
Finally, I think that some kind of threesome scenario IS realistic, if not something I would actually pursue with any great effort. That is, I wouldn't actively try to pressure my wife into letting me have sex with her and another women, but I think there are situations in which it could happen naturally, and that would be pretty awesome. For instance, one of her friends definitely has a bit of a thing for me, and she's single. The three of us went on a weekend trip together once and the whole time we were joking about how the friend was my "second wife." Nothing happened, and nothing ever would have in milion years, but I fantasize about something happening in a situation like that.: edited
Iksanabot

Just to be fair, what about her, you and a different male?
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I think we (men) are open to a second female but closed to to a second male. What is good for the goose SHOULD be good for the gander.

[LRM]

The one major change I would like is more communication. "Thats good, more of that, not there, lower", you get the idea.
When engaged with one another the guessing game we play is not welcome. Come to mention it is NEVER welcome. Tell me what you want, why must I have to find it by trial and error?
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Are you listening Ladies?

[iksanabot]

LRM, actually, the idea of cumming in my wife's mouth while she is getting hammered by some other dude is kind of a turn on, abut I still wouldn't want it to happen in real life. ANd i don't think I have a double standard, because I don't PURSUE a threesome with another women and my wife either. It's just that fucking two women at once would be harder to resist than letting some other guy fuck her, so if either event became a possibility, I''m more likely to happily go along with two women, than with another man and my wife.
In fact I'll even put it more simply: I'd rather two vaginas exposed in my presence than a vagina and a cock.

[tlaero]

Thanks for the suggestions so far, folks. Keep 'em coming. We were already planning some of these things, so this is at least validating what we're planning, as well as giving us some ideas along the way.

Tlaero

[tlaero]

Thanks for taking the time to write such a long response, iksanabot.

Tlaero

[iksanabot]

Absolutely my pleasure Tlaero.

[Dolphin-BR]

VRaptorX wrote : OK...I just got a quick question.....why do people even want threesomes? No really? I mean I can't even wrap my head around the mechanics of it. I only have one penis. It's gonna be really difficult to please 2 women at once. That doesn't sound fun, it sounds stressful.

I kind of agree with you. From my point of view, it would only work if you don't have feelings for any of them. If you love a girl, your attentions would be focused on her and on her only.
(Sorry for being off topic.)

[drakpower]

Honestly, a threesome with a random girl picked up at a bar or found through Craigslist or similar classified ad websites. Though I also feel having sex with her while she sucks off another guy might also be appealing.

Watching porn together and she ends up touching herself and then we go at it is also a longtime fantasy of mine.

Another for me would be public flashing or having a clit massager on her while I have the remote controller and use it at dinner in a fancy restaurant. My girlfriend actually suggested this to me but I'm too nervous of being found out to actually try it.

Off topic to Dolphin-BR and VRaptorX: While that point of view might be what works for you, other people are different. Even while being in a loving,long-term relationship sometimes the sex can get boring. Some people add excitement by using marital aids like sex swings, dildos, or porn, other couples may abstain from sex for a bit to add that excitement back in, and yet another couple may rediscover or enhance their passion for each other through another person(or people). It could be awkward and cause problems if there were feelings that developed between one of the couple and the third party sure, but that decision should be dealt with, and the risk beared, by the couple.